I was talking to a guy who recently received an offer to be promoted to a new position at his workplace. This promotion was exactly what he was looking for and while the promotion would require him to relocate out of the province, this was also an added benefit as he would be closer to his family. Unfortunately, he is currently in a serious relationship with a women whom he is deeply in love with and she is unwilling to move with him as she is afraid of a change this drastic. Basically, he is placed into a situation where if he doesn’t take the promotion he could be jeopardizing the possibility of being promoted in the future and at the same time he would possibly be losing the women of his dreams.
Just like in business, there are so many times where you have to make decisions based on what’s best for your future growth and often times that means sacrificing things that you otherwise wouldn’t. Right now, his mindset is that she is being selfish as he is doing to this to ensure a better future for the both of them while her main reason to not agreeing with it is that she would have to start over in life in regards to things such as making new friends and living in a new area. While everyone probably has their own opinion on who is being selfish, in my opinion it makes more sense to me for her to go along with him as he is doing this to create a better financial future for the both of them and I’m sure that if they truly believe that they are for each other than one should be prepared to make changes that will make the relationship better. He even mentioned to me that if it was the other way around, he would of been willing to do it.
As of now, his decision has been to take the promotion and only time will tell to see if she will go along with him. I personally think that is the right decision and that if she is unwilling to go with him now, I can only imagine what kind of conflict will arise in the future when their relationship becomes even more serious with a similar type of scenario.