Today I was told about an unfortunate scenario that is taking place with someone who is apparently within my very distant family tree I guess you can say. In a nutshell, basically the parents wanted their daughter to go into a specific field, which from what I was told was something in chemistry, and in an effort in wanting to give her the best they paid to have her go to the US for schooling (They live in Hong Kong normally).
The conflict came in as she did not want to get into that field as she had no real passion for it nor was it something she was good at, but the parents insisted and so she went ahead with it. Now the interesting thing is that she was suppose to graduate this year, but the parents soon learned that she couldnâ€™t due to not having enough credits. The story that I heard was kind of interesting as apparently midway during her schooling she switched directions and took courses in a field that she was actually interested, which was business related I was told, in which the parents didnâ€™t know. So not only wonâ€™t she be graduating, but she has to leave the country soon because of the way the school Visa works and so she is trying to cut communication directly with the parents for as long as possible as she fears she would be say scolded over it. Almost sounds like a soap opera huh?
This sure was a complex situation I thought. In general, for the most part I would say that it is obviously better to get into something you are passionate about. The other view for this would be that if you are given so much and agreed to go through with it in the first place that you should at least follow through with it. I know quite a few people who chose their careers mainly because of the income potential as people had to sacrifice a lot financially to be able to give them the ideal education and so they felt like that was a way to ensure that it wonâ€™t go wasted so to speak. I only know one person who kept changing paths during his schooling as it was â€œtoo hardâ€ and money didnâ€™t seem to be an issue. While it isnâ€™t exactly the same, it kind of reminds me of say a business and investor relationship.
For these types of situations though, I guess the bottom line is that I am more inclined to say that you should really think hard right from the start before getting into something because it can be a very black and white scenario in the working and business world. For example, if you agreed to do something for someone and you went ahead and took the money, rarely will you be able to backtrack from that without some kind of serious repercussion regardless of how dramatic the situation may be. So learn and work towards what you have a lot of aspirations in, but Iâ€™d say at the same time if other people are helping you financially then you owe it to them and yourself to be honest from the start. That means even if they are pushing you to do something that you disagree with, then it is your responsibility to either not accept it from the start or try to compromise in the beginning before doing anything.